If you’re wondering how to manifest love and have that special person in your life, then this article is for you!
What is manifestation
According to Google, manifestation means: ‘an event, action, or object that clearly shows or embodies something abstract or theoretical:’
Basically, it is making something happen out of nothing. Just by simply thinking about it, imagining it, having the certainty that you will get it and taking inspired action.
Key points to remember before starting
- The real reason why some people take a long time to actually manifest a boyfriend or girlfriend, is because deep down they don’t believe they’re worthy or good enough for the love they actually want.
I know this might sound a little confusing.
Let me explain further.
For example, I want to manifest having a hot body that is 20 lbs lighter. But I am not working out or taking inspired action towards it. Then my subconscious will just sabotage me, and I will end up frustrated. As I’ve been trying to manifest a hot body but didn’t really succeed, I will never succeed. Because I haven’t actually done anything about it.
The actions we’re doing and even the manifestation methods we’re using are mainly for the purpose of making ourselves believe, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that we deserve the love we want to manifest.
Just repeating to yourself that you deserve something it doesn’t mean that you actually will believe. Hence why we need to incorporate all senses if possible. And believe with literally our whole being that we will manifest love, one that we want.
- Manifestation is not just daydreaming about what it is that you want. It also is taking inspired action.
Make sure to continue reading as I’m explaining what Inspired Action actually is.
- It doesn’t matter what religion you practice, if at all, as manifesting love works literally for everyone.
Anyway, the different religions are just different routes to get to the same destination.
- Make sure to follow one step after another as they build on top of each other.
There is no point in jumping over to the last steps if you haven’t done the first ones. They all make sense and work if followed properly.
That doesn’t mean that you cannot go back and re-do some of the steps if you later find out you’ve done them wrong.
- You might not manifest the exact person you want, like ‘John’, unless they too want the same things as you and your desires match.
So, when you’re trying to manifest love, be grateful for the one you describe in your list or essay and ask for that OR better.
Then the universe will know if ‘John’ is right for you. And it will make circumstances happen in order for you to get together.
If the universe is not bringing you ‘John’, that’s fine. It just means that it has someone better for you. Someone who might actually appreciate and love you the way you want to be loved.
What is Inspired Action
Inspired action is any action that your gut feeling is telling you that you should do with regards to manifesting what you want. In this case on how to manifest love.
It’s like sometimes we get a feeling of doing something or going somewhere and even of calling people at random.
Sometimes it might be others who will insist we go or do something.
Even if you might be a bit confused and not sure if what you’re feeling is a gut feeling, then just do it and analyze it after.
If you’ve been doing something consistently and it is not working, then either fine tune it or simply try to do something else.
Our feelings are like a compass that usually guide us towards what is right and what isn’t for us.
So if a feeling feels right and is making you excited, happy and energetic, then do that.
If you get anxiety and you’re literally avoiding doing it, then don’t.
When I was working on how to manifest love there came a time when my mom insisted I travel back home to one of my cousin’s weddings.
Although initially I didn’t really want to go I still did. And guess what?
No, I didn’t meet my husband at that wedding.
But I met him, in my hometown, after I’d flown back home. It literally was just a couple of days before the wedding. As that was taking place in a different city altogether.
If I would have not listened to my mom, maybe I would have not met him to this day. Or maybe we would have met, but much later on.
Regardless, our meeting was quite extraordinary, and we both felt it from the beginning.
How to manifest a boyfriend or girlfriend
- The first step is to write down a list of what character traits should this person have. How should they look, how should they behave, and most importantly what common values should they have.
This can be either a list or an essay. It doesn’t really matter.
When I was working on manifesting a boyfriend I wrote a bullet point list. And it had like 21 character traits. That was all that I could think of then. If I would need to re-do the list I would know to include many more. As I’ve noticed so many other amazing qualities in my husband that I never thought of including.
My husband on the other hand, had like 36 points. But each explained in a paragraph or two and it totalled an essay of 7 pages. Describing how his perfect partner would look like, and be like.
What matters are the details. Try to make it as detailed as you can.
Think of it like putting in your order to God, or the Universe for this amazing partner and then God, or the universe will create the perfect circumstances for you two to meet.
The more accurate your list is, the better.
How would God, or the universe, know which person to bring in front of you if you’re not being exact?
If the only things that you’re wishing for is someone who’s tall, dark and handsome you will confuse the Universe. I mean there are thousands of tall, dark and handsome men around you, so you have to be a bit more specific about which one you would want.
Or would you rather do the selection yourself and meet all of them? That would be too tiring.
If you’re scared that you might not feel the spark with that person, then make sure to include the ‘spark’ in your list.
I mean I have put down things like: similar family values, love, passion and chemistry.
And I’ve got all of them! All the 21 points PLUS some bonuses as I call them.
These are various other good qualities I never thought of including on the list when I wrote it.
- The second thing to do is make another, separate list of the qualities that you should brush on, in order to be desirable for a person like the one you want to manifest.
Basically, what are you bringing to the table?
Confused?
Ok, let me try and explain this better.
For example, when I was working on manifesting love and I’ve done my initial list, I also had a running list of the qualities I would need to have in order to make myself interesting in the eyes of my perfect partner.
That doesn’t mean that you need to have a personality transplant. On the contrary, still be you, but a better version of yourself.
So if I wanted someone who is loyal, and is interested in being healthy, going to gym and eating healthy, I obviously had to be someone who would match that.
So I just started being more consistent with going to the gym, and also more consistent with eating healthy.
We cannot just expect everything we want on a plate and not give or do anything in return or at least match that same energy.
If that would work, everyone would walk around manifesting anything they would ever want but never actually evolving, so what would be the point of that?
Again, I was already doing those things, I just started being more disciplined about them and also saw some good results on the scale as a result of it. AND it helped my confidence quite a lot.
Therefore, take your first list of the perfect partner and start writing a second list of what are the things that you need to work on and improve?
It doesn’t mean that you have to have all of that list ready and sorted and only then you can manifest your perfect partner.
It just means that you have to be on your way to a better version of yourself.
- The third thing to do is to always be grateful.
I’ve talked about gratitude before, and I will repeat this again. Because it is so important, I have to talk about it again.
It took me quite a while to fully understand the gratitude everyone is talking about.
And more importantly, how to actually harness the power of gratitude.
Being truly grateful is a mix of happiness, but a quiet happiness about what is to come and for you to receive, mixed with a certainty of what is to come.
It’s a lot like being in your favorite restaurant. You order your exact food that you love most, and then you’re certain that you will get it exactly how you want it.
It’s that feeling of anticipation and certainty that you will get exactly what you ordered.
It is this specific feeling that you need to focus on and hold on to it for as long as possible.
There are many tricks and methods you can do to keep your gratitude level up.
The main ones are around trying to find daily reasons why you are currently grateful. As the feeling of being grateful is what attracts more and more reasons to be more and more grateful.
If you’re constantly anxious about anything, you will keep attracting more and more things to be anxious about.
Another thing to pay attention to are the words you’re using. Like EVERYTIME you speak.
And although you might say that you don’t actually mean the bad and negative words you’re using, the universe or God, don’t take a hint and neither a joke so whatever you say will be manifested.
The good thing about this is that we don’t instantly manifest every thought or word. The universe gives us a bit of headway to allow us to settle into our desire or change it if we want.
Imagine if we would have manifested all the crazy things we ever said.
I think most of us wouldn’t even be here anymore.
Before moving on to the next step I just want to mention one more thing:
When you wish for something, you should imagine it, talk about it and feel about it as you would already have it.
Because we all attract and manifest what we are in THIS moment.
So if you WISH for something, you’re projecting the feeling of not having it right now, and therefore that is what you will attract more of.
If you act as if you already have it, there is a certain degree of certainty that actually makes it happen, that is more of what you will attract more of.
The way I used to do it was to imagine how it would actually feel to have that amazing person in my life. What would I say, how would I be, how happy would I be?
Even throughout the day, whenever I would remember, I would imagine how it would feel to receive a nice text from my ideal partner.
Or when I was leaving work I was imagining my perfect person waiting for me with flowers, and wanting to take me out to dinner.
I did this for around 2 months until I actually met the perfect partner for me, who later on became my husband.
Even if I wouldn’t actually get a message, I didn’t let myself fall into desperation or disappointment as I knew those emotions were cancelling out the gratitude and certainty emotions I was trying to feel throughout the day.
It was a feeling that I was focusing on every day.
And let me tell you… the real feeling, once you actually meet your perfect partner, is waaaayyy better than everything I’ve imagined.
And years later of being together and married, we’re still very much in love with each other.
- The fourth step is to actually take action.
I have spoked above about what Inspired action means.
But I also wanted to add the fact that we’re all energy and energy works best when it’s on the move.
If you stay stagnant, no new energy can come your way.
So take your second list, the one about how you should be in order to attract the perfect partner that you desire.
And start working on each point.
This will help you in 3 ways:
Firstly, it will eventually give you the conviction that you DO deserve to manifest love and the perfect partner for you.
Secondly, you will elevate your energy levels as you become a better and better version of yourself.
And third, it will keep you busy enough so you don’t fall into negative emotions like desperation or disappointment.
All negative emotions and negative words that we’re using are only canceling out our desires from being manifested.
Hence why we need to be super careful of the words we’re using on a daily basis.
Conclusion
Everyone can manifest love and learn how to manifest a boyfriend or girlfriend.
However you do have to put in a bit of work and effort.
Once you do it right you will see things happening like they’re magical.
And sometimes you might not notice the coincidences until AFTER they happened. And looking back you will see all the points when the most amazing ‘happenstances’ took place.
Don’t forget that this can be a process and that’s ok. It gives us enough time to learn everything we need in order to level up.
