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Ask Your S.O. These 100 Long-Distance Relationship Questions

Are you looking for long-distance relationship questions? 


You see, a long distance relationship can be very tough sometimes, there’s no way around it. You can end up feeling drained, out of conversation topics, and questioning yourself if it’s all worth it. We’re here to tell you that yes, it’s worth it!

No relationship is ever a piece of cake, because nothing truly worthwhile is easy. Every couple has their ups and downs, regardless if it’s a “standard” relationship or a long distance one.

The key is maintaining open and honest communication at all times.

In fact, it’s even more important if you’re in an LDR, because talking and texting are your main go-to activities.

Sure, during evenings or nights, you could watch a movie together on a video call, or play a game. However, you’re most likely busy with your jobs during the day.

Don’t forget to stay in touch with each other regularly, because you can quickly fall into a “I’ll let them text me first” trap.

This mindset is a disadvantage, since you could both end up in a state where you think your partner has forgotten about you (while they’re also waiting for you to reach out).

Just because you’re a long distance away, it doesn’t mean that the excitement and fun of your relationship should burn out. Keep that flame alight!

Focus on the idea that this is not forever, and that your partner is eventually coming back from their job abroad, deployment, studies, or so on.

We understand that being an optimist is hard at times, and that’s why we’re here to help you. It might surprise you, but you can have many quality conversations regardless of distance.

The type of talks that add value to your relationship and help you grow as a couple. 

That’s actually the whole idea behind our card game for couples, Better Topics. A free app that helps you talk more about the really important things with your significant other.

But first, let’s get into some great conversation starter questions:

The Best Soulmate Long-Distance Relationship Questions

You don’t want these questions to feel like an interrogation, but you also want to learn more about your partner through them. Sounds complicated?

Not at all! It’s all about balancing valuable topics with a bit of fun thrown into the mix.

  1. What’s your ideal meal after a long day?

Remember the answer! Next time you meet up, you can cook it as a surprise. Sharing a great meal together is a wonderful way to bond.

  1. Were you into sports as a child? Did you play any?
  2. Would you go on a stage and act in front of a large audience?
  3. Do you see yourself ever being on TV? Maybe the news, a show?
  4. What’s one game that you’d really like us to play during our video calls?
  5. Is there anything about me you don’t really like?
  6. What do you think is your best physical feature?

We don’t always think the same about ourselves as others do. This question can help you determine if your partner is feeling self-conscious about their body.

  1. What do you think I like most about you?
  2. After you’re coming back home, where should we go on vacation?
  3. Do you have any phobias you haven’t told me about?
  4. Do you ever get to eat brunch with friends or colleagues?
  5. Are you in any pop culture fandoms?
  6. What’s the best book you’ve ever read? Care to recommend some to me?
  7. Is listening to music an important part of your day?
  8. Do you like any movie that you know is bad, but you like it anyway?

Admit it, you have one of these on your list too!

  1. Do you feel like you can tell your best friend anything?
  2. What’s your record for staying awake?
  3. Have you ever reached a point of no sleep that you started hallucinating?
  4. Have you ever gone 3+ days without showering?
  5. Do you have a pet peeve that’s always going to set you off?
  6. What would be your superhero name?

Many of us fantasized day in and day out about having superpowers during childhood years. It’s no shame to still see yourself as a caped hero, so delve into your partner’s mind and see how they’d want to be known.

  1. Have any of your opinions drastically changed since childhood?
  2. Have you ever considered changing your name?
  3. What’s your favorite color? Why?
  4. How many holidays do you think we should have?
  5. Do you like junk food, or are you against it?

There’s also a sneakier, third option. They could be verbally against junk food, but indulge in it on the down low. Don’t let them get away with it!

  1. Do you have one of those memories of a really silly thing that you’re not sure how it even started?
  2. Which pet was your favorite up until now?
  3. Are you more of a saver, or do you spend money without giving it much thought?
  4. Would your younger self approve of where you are now with your life?
  5. What’s your ideal vacation spot?
  6. Do you usually have nice dreams, or are they upsetting?
  7. What do you think about tattoos? Would you get one? Do you have one?

Tattoos can be a heated debate subject for some couples. Some people are adamantly against them, while others would like at least one.

That’s why it’s important to ask your S.O such long-distance relationship questions. See if they want one, or if they’d be bothered if you’d get a tattoo yourself.

  1. Would you like to meet any celebrity?
  2. How do you deal with stress?
  3. Is fashion an important part of your life? Do you dress to impress?
  4. What would you pick between an awesome sandwich and an amazing pizza?
  5. Do you stay in touch with childhood friends?
  6. Do you think social media is an important part of our lives?

As you know from your own long distance relationship experience, we’re greatly helped by the internet to stay in touch. But, there’s “too much” with everything.

Even if you’re apart, you don’t have to make your lives all about each other. You still have things to do and friends to go out with in your personal lives too.

  1. Would you become a politician? What are the reasons?
  2. How do you get along with older and younger generations?
  3. If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  4. Sour candy – yay or nay?
  5. Do you engage in those types of arguments that we know are pointless, but they’re significant to us? Like if pineapple belongs on a pizza.

Life’s about the little things! If you take out the silly aspects and the moments that make you laugh, you can become really grim and sour.

Instead, rejoice that we can seriously debate if hot dogs are a sandwich or not. It shows you’re free to use your time as you wish with these long-distance relationship questions!

  1. Do you keep house plants? Are you a “fan” of nature?
  2. Are you more into spicy or sweet foods?
  3. Do you dream of owning a fancy car or a race car?
  4. Do you still keep your favorite childhood toy around?
  5. What do you think is your biggest achievement?
  6. If you could go back in time and change just one thing, what would it be?

Many people can struggle with regret, even if they don’t realize it at first. Since you love each other, it’s important you also help each other get past unfortunate events from your past. Talking about the issue is always the first step to solving it.

  1. Do you like taking photos?
  2. Would you hang pictures or posters on your walls?
  3. Do you like listening to the radio at all?
  4. Have you ever ended up liking something you initially thought was terrible?
  5. Do you use emojis a lot in your messages?
  6. Do cheesy “dad jokes” and terrible puns make you laugh nonetheless?

Humour is subjective, but some jokes are great simply because they’re bad! If you both enjoy these types of jokes, you’re in for a treat, as you can find thousands of them online.

Don’t leave this topic out of your long-distance relationship questions!

  1. Have you ever painted something you really liked?
  2. Do you particularly like one of my outfits?
  3. Top 3 ice cream flavors – go!
  4. Which season do you like the most?
  5. Do you usually drink alcohol in the evenings?
  6. How much do you smoke nowadays? Do you plan on giving up smoking?
  7. What ability would you really like to have?
  8. Is it better to read the book, or see the movie?
  9. Do you enjoy watching comedy skits?

Laughing is just great, but laughing together with the person you love is something else. Watching comedy videos or shows together can be a great evening activity, as you only need a computer and internet connection.

  1. What’s your favorite snack?
  2. Have you binge watched any great shows lately?
  3. Were you into fairy tales growing up? Which one was your favorite?
  4. What occasion warrants the fanciest clothes you own?
  5. Do you actively avoid any of the social media platforms?
  6. Do you like giving and/or receiving gifts?

Gifting is one of those things that’s expected in a relationship, but it doesn’t have to be. Everyone has their own love language. Some really like giving and receiving gifts. Others do it out of obligation or just don’t want to focus around gift giving.

Talk with your partner and understand how they feel on this matter. It’s especially important because you’re apart most of the time. This can place pressure on the occasions where you get to see each other. Set expectations from the beginning.

  1. Do you like our country, overall?
  2. How could we make our relationship feel more fulfilling?
  3. Did your parents take you to the circus when you were young?
  4. Do you like riding the crazier rides at the amusement park?
  5. If you could choose any person that ever lived or is still living to meet, which one would it be?
  6. What makes you “feel all the feels” every time?

Staying in touch with your feelings is crucial for a healthy life. You should make time to talk about what’s going on inside your souls regularly with long-distance relationship questions.

Bottling up your emotions until they explode is a surefire way to both feel horrible, and to upset your partner.

  1. Do you enjoy spending holidays with your family?
  2. What’s one item that’s very important to you?
  3. Do you like mind games like chess or mahjong?
  4. Have you ever wanted to build something with your own hands?
  5. What’s a “general knowledge” thing that you really disagree with?
  6. What should we do next time we see each other?

Planning your next weekend together is a great way of keeping your enthusiasm high! Don’t focus on being apart, focus on how much fun you’ll have during the days that you can spend together.

  1. Have you considered taking up cooking?
  2. What’s your favorite takeout place?
  3. Do you have a favorite quote that’s molded your life?
  4. Do you like big, strong, long-lasting hugs?
  5. What do you usually do on your phone?
  6. Do you regularly listen to any podcasts?
  7. Are public displays of affection acceptable or not?

Especially when you’re in an LDR, PDAs can be very tempting. You only have a limited amount of time to spend with your loved one, so you don’t care what others are thinking. You want to shout your love of them to the world, and display it all the time.

However, make sure your partner is ok with this. Some people are more private than others, and they could actually be uncomfortable with kissing or hugging publicly. Listen to their viewpoint and try to understand it.

  1. What do you usually do to unwind?
  2. What do you think is going to be your last act on Earth?
  3. Would you have done anything differently, in retrospect?
  4. What’s one thing that makes you feel inspired?
  5. What’s your way of dealing with feeling pressured?
  6. What are you most likely to buy for yourself?

This is actually a stealthy way of finding out what your S.O would like to buy, and buying it for them! Likewise, you can discuss your buying habits and why you buy certain things. The whole discussion can go as in-depth as you want it to.

We advise having a serious talk about this subject at least once, since you’re planning your lives together. You don’t want to come home one day (after the LDR normalizes again) and find a surprising item in your home, which might’ve also cost a lot. 

Stay in touch during your time apart from one another, and see if you start changing from who you were before.

  1. Are you tired of constantly hearing a certain argument?
  2. Who do you consider to be your best friend?
  3. Can you function without a morning coffee? 
  4. When have you been the most embarrassed?

Even More Loving Questions!

We hope you found these long-distance relationship questions helpful. If you’re looking for more advice, check out our list of 150 relationship questions.

We’ve compiled it for couples looking to make the most out of their love life. 

For endless hours of quality conversations, download Better Topics for free today. It’s available on both iOS and Android, and it’s the perfect tool to keep the conversation going while you’re doing long distance!

Each round, one player plays a question card, and the other one gives an answer. Of course, that’s just the summary of it. It’s a fully fledged game with rules, modifier cards, rewards, the whole package! Check it out now.


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