How to get a boyfriend?
Easy.
You just summon him with a secret spell.
Kidding! (Or am I?)
Listen, getting a boyfriend doesn’t have to feel like rocket science or a reality dating show.
It’s about being yourself, having fun, and, most importantly, not losing your mind.
Buckle up, because I’m spilling the tea on how to get a boyfriend without all the awkwardness and clichés.
Be Your Weird, Wonderful Self
Here’s the secret: Forget about being perfect.
Be you!
Snort when you laugh?
Awesome.
Love pineapple on pizza?
Shout it from the rooftops.
Wear socks that don’t match?
A vibe.
The right guy will think your quirks are charming.
Why?
Because authenticity is magnetic.
People can smell fake a mile away.
When you’re unapologetically yourself, the right person will be drawn to your energy like a moth to a disco ball.
Let’s be real, pretending to be someone you’re not is exhausting.
Do you really want to fake an interest in cryptocurrency or hiking for the next six months?
(Answer: no.)
Instead, embrace the stuff that makes you you.
Your love for collecting vintage spoons or your obsession with 90s boy bands isn’t weird.
It’s character.
Here’s the thing: Your quirks are your secret weapon.
They make you unforgettable.
A guy who doesn’t appreciate your Harry Potter trivia skills or your inability to eat spaghetti without slurping?
Not your guy.
The right guy will think your quirks are endearing, and he’ll join in.
And don’t be afraid to let your humor shine.
A good laugh is the ultimate icebreaker.
Crack a joke, share a funny story, or laugh at yourself when you trip over thin air. (We’ve all been there.)
Bottom line?
Being yourself is not just the easiest way to attract the right guy.
It’s the only way.
When you own your weirdness, you’re not just showing him who you are you’re showing him why you’re absolutely worth it.
Ditch the Checklist
Tall, dark, and handsome?
Snooze.
Forget the checklist of “must-haves.” Instead, focus on how someone makes you feel.
A lot of people get stuck chasing this imaginary “ideal guy” who checks all the boxes.
Six feet tall?
Check.
Loves dogs?
Check.
Makes a perfect omelet?
Check.
But here’s the thing: does any of that really matter if he can’t hold a decent conversation or remember your favorite coffee order? (Spoiler: It doesn’t.)
A guy doesn’t need washboard abs or a jawline you could slice cheese with to make you happy.
He needs to be kind, funny, and someone you actually enjoy talking to.
You’re not dating a résumé; you’re dating a human.
Also, let’s talk about compatibility over aesthetics.
Sure, he might look like a Marvel superhero, but can he match your vibe during a cozy movie night or a last-minute road trip?
Prioritize someone who “gets” you over someone who just looks good in selfies.
And here’s the fun part: The guy who doesn’t fit your “type” might surprise you.
Maybe he’s shorter than you imagined, or his fashion sense leans more “dad at a barbecue” than GQ model.
But if he makes you laugh until your stomach hurts and listens when you rant about your day?
That’s the stuff that matters.
Oh, and let’s not forget the softer side of things.
Ever cuddled with a guy who’s a little squishy?
It’s like hugging a human marshmallow: warm, soft, and perfect for binging Netflix.
Six-packs might look cool, but they don’t keep you warm in the winter.
Bottom line?
Toss the checklist.
Focus on connection, shared values, and whether he makes your life a little brighter.
The best relationships aren’t built on abs or height, they’re built on laughter, trust, and someone who knows your go-to pizza toppings without asking.
Hang Out Where You Want to Be
Newsflash: You’re not going to meet your soulmate sitting on your couch binge-watching Love Island. (Although, wouldn’t it be amazing if the delivery guy suddenly declared his undying love for you?)
But here’s the thing, finding a boyfriend doesn’t mean forcing yourself into awkward, uncomfortable situations.
Love books?
Hit up a cozy bookstore event or join a book club.
Bonus points if they serve wine.
Into fitness?
Try a yoga class, hiking group, or even a rock-climbing gym.
Love geeking out over board games?
Find a local game night.
These places not only connect you with potential boyfriends, but they’re also full of people who share your interests.
And don’t overlook hobbies that aren’t traditionally “romantic.”
You never know where you might meet someone interesting.
Taking a pottery class?
Cute guy across the room might need help shaping his lopsided vase.
Learning salsa dancing?
That shy guy in the corner could be your future dance partner.
Here’s the trick: When you’re in your element, you’re more confident and approachable.
You’re also likely to meet someone who loves the same stuff you do.
And let’s be honest, wouldn’t you rather bond over your shared obsession with 80s music than pretend you care about football?
Pro tip: Try volunteering.
Not only is it a great way to give back, but it’s also full of people who care about the same causes.
Whether you’re walking shelter dogs or planting trees, shared values are a solid foundation for any relationship.
Oh, and one more thing: Don’t forget the power of being a regular.
Whether it’s your favorite coffee shop, gym, or farmer’s market, showing up often creates familiarity.
Who knows?
That barista who makes your latte just right could be the one, or maybe the guy you see every Tuesday at spin class finally works up the courage to say hi.
Bottom line?
Stop going places you hate just to “increase your odds.”
You’re more likely to meet someone amazing when you’re genuinely having fun.
And hey, even if you don’t meet your dream boyfriend at a cooking class, you’ll at least walk away with some killer recipes.
Win-win.
Flirt Without Being Creepy
Flirting is like seasoning, just the right amount can make things exciting, but too much?
Yikes.
You’re aiming for spicy, not overwhelming.
So, how do you flirt without being creepy or awkward?
Here’s the playbook.
Start small and playful.
Flirting doesn’t have to be a grand gesture.
A simple compliment like, “That jacket looks great on you,” or a light-hearted tease like, “Let me guess, you’re the kind of person who skips dessert?” can work wonders.
Keep it casual and fun!
Master the art of eye contact.
This is the MVP of flirting.
Hold his gaze for a second longer than usual, then look away with a little smile.
It’s subtle, but it works.
Just remember, this isn’t a staring contest.
Serial-killer vibes are not the goal.
Use humor.
A good laugh is the ultimate icebreaker.
Share a funny story, make a joke, or playfully poke fun at something happening around you.
Humor not only makes you more approachable, but it also sets a fun, relaxed tone.
If he laughs with you, you’re on the right track.
Break the touch barrier (gently).
Light, casual touches, like a tap on the arm during a laugh or brushing past his shoulder, can create a connection.
The key here is subtlety.
You’re not trying to reenact a rom-com’s dramatic shoulder grab.
Keep it natural and respectful.
Ask him open-ended questions.
People love talking about themselves.
Instead of asking, “Do you like coffee?” try, “What’s the weirdest coffee order you’ve ever had?”
It’s flirty, engaging, and gives him a chance to shine.
Make it about him.
Compliment his energy, style, or the way he handled a situation.
For example, “You have a really calming vibe.
Are you always this chill, or is it just because I’m here?”
It’s flattering without being over the top.
Balance interest with mystery.
Show him you’re interested, but don’t lay all your cards on the table.
Drop hints about your hobbies or plans, but leave him wanting to know more.
For instance, “This reminds me of something wild that happened to me last summer… but I’ll save that story for later.”
Read the room.
If he’s leaning in, smiling, and keeping the conversation going, you’re nailing it.
If he’s looking at his phone, fidgeting, or giving short answers, take the hint.
Flirting works best when it’s mutual.
And the golden rule?
Confidence is key.
Flirting isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about having fun and showing a little interest.
If something lands awkwardly, laugh it off.
No one expects you to be smooth 100% of the time.
Besides, sometimes those “oops” moments turn out to be the most charming.
So, go ahead, sprinkle a little flirtation into your interactions.
Just remember, you’re aiming for intriguing, not intimidating.
A little spice, not the whole jar of cayenne.
Slide into His DMs Like a Pro
Sliding into someone’s DMs doesn’t have to feel like walking into a job interview unprepared.
It’s actually one of the easiest ways to make a connection, when you do it right.
The key?
Confidence, humor, and a little creativity.
Step one: Make it personal.
A generic “hey” or “what’s up?” won’t cut it.
He’s heard that a thousand times, and honestly, who hasn’t?
Instead, tailor your message to something specific about him.
Did he post about his favorite pizza joint?
Message him with, “Wait, is that place really as good as everyone says? Should I cancel my diet plans and go?”
Step two: Use humor.
Humor is an instant icebreaker.
See something funny on his profile?
Make a witty comment about it.
For example, if he has a picture with his dog, say, “So, is the dog single, or am I barking up the wrong tree?”
Playful and lighthearted messages stand out in the sea of boring one-liners.
Step three: Compliment without going overboard.
Instead of gushing about how hot he looks, try a compliment that feels thoughtful. “Your music taste is fire, how do you find these bands?”
Or “That travel pic? Total bucket list vibes.”
Flattery is great when it feels genuine.
Step four: Ask an open-ended question.
Don’t just send a statement.
Give him something to respond to.
If he posts about a hobby, ask him how he got into it.
Example: “Your hiking photo is awesome! What’s the best trail you’ve ever done?”
This invites conversation and shows you’re genuinely interested.
Step five: Timing matters.
Slide into his DMs at a reasonable hour.
Sending a message at 2 a.m. screams “bored,” not “interested.”
A midday or evening message feels casual and intentional.
Step six: Keep it light.
The first DM isn’t the time for life stories or deep confessions.
Keep it short, fun, and easy to reply to.
Think of it as the appetizer, not the whole meal.
Step seven: Be bold, but don’t overdo it.
Confidence is attractive, but desperation isn’t.
If he doesn’t respond, don’t double-text.
Give him space.
A guy worth your time will make an effort if he’s interested.
Step eight: End on a playful note.
If the conversation starts to fizzle, throw in a playful nudge to keep it going.
Something like, “Okay, so now I need to know, pineapple on pizza: yes or no? This is critical information.”
It’s flirty, engaging, and keeps the vibe light.
Sliding into DMs is just modern-day flirting, so treat it like a casual chat, not a high-pressure audition.
And remember: the goal isn’t to sound perfect.
It’s to spark a connection.
Worst-case scenario?
He doesn’t respond, and you move on to someone who will.
Best case?
That DM turns into a date, or at least a hilarious story for your friends.
Win-win.
Stop Overthinking the Chase
Chasing a boyfriend shouldn’t feel like running a marathon in heels:exhausting and totally unnecessary.
The truth is, overthinking the chase often does more harm than good.
Relax, take a breath, and let things unfold naturally.
First, remember: You’re not auditioning for his attention.
You’re not a circus act trying to juggle flaming swords to impress him.
If you feel like you’re constantly putting in all the effort, it’s time to take a step back.
Relationships should feel balanced, not like you’re chasing a Wi-Fi signal that keeps dropping.
Second, don’t read too much into every little thing.
He didn’t reply to your text for three hours?
It doesn’t mean he hates you or is ghosting you.
Maybe he’s at work, napping, or deep in a Netflix binge.
Give him the benefit of the doubt, overanalyzing will only drive you (and your friends who have to hear about it) crazy.
Third, remember: Interest should be mutual.
You’re not here to convince someone to like you.
If he’s into you, you’ll know.
He’ll text back, make plans, and show genuine interest.
If he’s vague or inconsistent, it’s not because he’s “busy” or “bad at texting”, he’s just not that into it.
And that’s okay!
Don’t waste your energy chasing someone who isn’t meeting you halfway.
Fourth, resist the urge to play games.
Forget the “wait three hours to reply” or “act like you don’t care” nonsense.
If you’re interested, show it. If he’s worth your time, he’ll appreciate your honesty and confidence.
Playing hard to get might work in rom-coms, but in real life, it just creates unnecessary drama.
Fifth, keep your options open.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
Until someone’s making a clear effort to be part of your life, feel free to explore other connections.
You’re not being “disloyal”, you’re protecting your time and energy.
Lastly, trust your gut.
If something feels off, it probably is.
If he’s inconsistent, flaky, or sending mixed signals, don’t twist yourself into knots trying to figure him out.
Walk away!
The right guy won’t leave you guessing!
Overthinking the chase can make you forget the most important thing: You’re a catch.
You’re not just looking for a boyfriend, you’re looking for someone who deserves you.
And if that’s not clear to him?
His loss.
Remember, the best relationships are like a good dance: two people moving together effortlessly, without one dragging the other across the floor.
So, stop stressing, stop chasing, and let things flow.
The right person will match your energy, and you won’t have to chase anything but your dreams.
Handle Rejection Like a Boss
Rejection sucks.
There’s no sugar-coating it.
But here’s the thing: rejection isn’t the end of the world, it’s just a plot twist in your story.
And honestly?
It might be the twist you didn’t know you needed.
First, reframe rejection.
It’s not about you being “not enough.” It’s about compatibility, or lack of it.
Think of it like trying on shoes.
Sometimes, no matter how cute they look, they just don’t fit.
And honestly, would you rather limp around in ill-fitting shoes or find a pair that feels perfect?
Second, don’t take it personally.
People reject others for all sorts of reasons, many of which have nothing to do with you.
Maybe he’s not ready for a relationship, or maybe he’s dealing with his own stuff.
Either way, his decision doesn’t define your worth.
Third, allow yourself to feel it, but don’t wallow.
It’s okay to be disappointed.
Grab some ice cream, vent to a friend, or have a mini pity party.
But set a timer on your sadness.
Give yourself a day (or two) to mope, then dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
Fourth, use rejection as a learning experience.
If you’re feeling brave, ask yourself: Is there something I can take away from this?
Maybe it’s learning to communicate more clearly, noticing red flags earlier, or understanding what you really want in a partner.
Rejection can be a growth opportunity, if you let it.
Fifth, remember: Rejection is protection.
Sometimes, rejection is the universe stepping in to save you from something (or someone) that wasn’t right for you.
Imagine if you ended up with every guy who’s rejected you, yikes, right?
Trust that better things are ahead.
Sixth, keep your confidence intact.
One person’s opinion doesn’t define your value.
You’re still smart, funny, gorgeous, and totally lovable.
The right person will see all that, and they won’t need convincing.
Finally, channel that rejection into self-love.
Take the energy you were putting into that guy and pour it back into yourself.
Try a new hobby, hit the gym, or plan a fun night out with friends.
Nothing screams “I’m over it” like living your best life.
Rejection is just a redirection.
It’s the universe’s way of saying, “Nope, not this one. Keep looking.”
And while it might sting in the moment, every “no” brings you closer to the right “yes.”
So, chin up, queen.
You’re one step closer to finding someone who truly deserves you.
And if all else fails, there’s always wine, chocolate, and Netflix to get you through.
Cheers to that!
Conclusion
So there you have it, the ultimate guide on how to get a boyfriend while staying true to yourself and having fun.
Whether you’re flirting, sliding into DMs, or handling rejection like a boss, remember: the journey to finding the right guy should be as enjoyable as the relationship itself.
Once you’ve found your special someone, keeping the spark alive and communication open is key.
That’s where the Better Topics Card Game for Couples comes in.
This playful, repeatable game is packed with thought-provoking questions designed to deepen your bond, improve communication, and keep things fun.
With endless replay value, it’s like having date night in a box, over and over again.
Why not give it a try?
Whether you’re in the honeymoon phase or navigating the long haul, the Better Topics Card Game will help you connect, laugh, and grow together.
Because relationships should be about more than just “figuring it out”, they should be about thriving.
Grab your deck, play, and watch your relationship level up!
