Questions to get to know someone are game-changers.
You don’t want to waste months only to find out they think pineapple belongs on pizza.
Forget the usual “What’s your favorite color?” nonsense.
Let’s get real!
These questions dig into the important stuff: kids, religion, money, and in-laws, without feeling like an interrogation.
1. Fun & Weird Questions to Get to Know Someone
Sometimes, the best way to get to know someone is to catch them off guard (in a fun way, not a “jump out of a closet” way).
These questions make people laugh, think, and spill their quirkiest secrets.
- “What’s the weirdest thing you believed as a kid?”
(If they say babies come from storks, it’s a red flag… or a sign of a fun childhood.)
- “If you had to survive a zombie apocalypse with one random household item, what would it be?”
- (Let’s see if they’re a thinker or if they just panic and yell “toaster!”)
- “What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done in public?”
(Bonus points if their answer makes you feel better about your own life choices.)
- “If you could erase one food from existence forever, what would it be?”
(If they say “chocolate,” you have permission to walk away immediately.)
- “What’s your most irrational fear?”
(Spiders, clowns, or… escalators? You’d be surprised what people confess.)
- “If you could be famous for something ridiculous, what would it be?”
(Inventing the perfect burrito-to-mouth delivery system? Being the world’s fastest shoelace-tier? Get creative!)
- “If your life had a background soundtrack, what song would play every time you entered a room?”
- (Bonus: you can judge them forever based on this answer.)
- “What’s the worst fashion trend you ever participated in?”
(Frosted tips? Low-rise jeans? Those weird arm-warmer glove things from the early 2000s?)
- “If your pet could talk, what’s the first thing they’d say about you?”
(Prepare for brutal honesty.)
- “What’s your go-to ‘lie’ when you don’t want to go out?”
(Let’s see how creative they get when avoiding plans.)
- “What’s a totally useless talent you have?”
(Can they make a weird noise with their tongue? Juggle socks? Name every Pokémon in order?)
- “What’s the weirdest compliment you’ve ever received?”
(“You have really symmetrical nostrils” counts.)
- “If you had to relive one awkward moment from your life every time you sneezed, what would it be?”
(This one gets interesting fast.)
- “What’s the most random fact you know that no one else does?”
(A great way to see if they hoard weird trivia or just smile and nod.)
These questions set the tone for fun, unexpected conversations.
Plus, they help you figure out if this person has a sense of humor—or if they take life way too seriously.
2. Kids: To Have or Not to Have?
Kids. Tiny humans with big emotions, endless energy, and the ability to turn a clean house into a disaster zone in 30 seconds.
Some people love them, some tolerate them, and some would rather have a pet turtle that lives for 100 years.
If you want to avoid a major relationship mismatch, these questions are a must.
- “Be honest, do you actually like kids, or do you just say you do to sound like a good person?”
(This question separates the babysitter types from the “I’ll hold your baby for 30 seconds, but that’s it” types.)
- “If you had kids, what’s the one thing you’d totally ban in your house?”
(Cartoon theme songs? Glitter? Those creepy dolls that stare into your soul?)
- “What’s the most ridiculous baby name you’ve ever heard?”
(Bonus: See if they casually mention wanting to name their future kid something wild like “Dragon” or “Banana.”)
- “Would you ever let your kid have a pet, and if so, what’s the absolute limit?”
(A dog? A hamster? A snake? A literal tarantula named Kevin?)
- “How did your parents discipline you, and do you think it worked?”
(Time-outs? Lectures? The classic ‘I’m not mad, just disappointed’ speech?)
- “If you had a kid, what’s one life skill you’d make sure they learned?”
(Cooking? Budgeting? The ability to fold a fitted sheet without losing their sanity?)
- “How would you react if your child threw a full-blown tantrum in public?”
(Would they negotiate like a hostage situation or pretend they don’t know their own kid?)
- “Would you let your child have unlimited screen time, or are you more of a ‘go play outside’ type?”
(Let’s see if they’re raising a future outdoorsy adventurer or a pro iPad user by age two.)
- “What’s something weird or hilarious you did as a kid?”
(This tells you what kind of chaos you might be dealing with in the future.)
- “Would you be a strict parent, or are you more ‘cool parent who sneaks extra dessert’?”
(If they say ‘I’d be the fun parent,’ get ready to be the bad cop.)
- “If your child refused to eat anything but one food for a month, what food do you hope they pick?”
(Chicken nuggets? Mac and cheese? Or something horrifying like olives?)
- “How many kids is too many?”
(Because “a full soccer team” is not the right answer.)
- “What’s a parenting trend you think is ridiculous?”
(Attachment parenting? Gender reveal parties? People who name their kids after fruits?)
- “If we had a kid, what’s a totally unnecessary but fun thing we’d spoil them with?”
(A treehouse? A motorized toy car? A pet miniature pony?)
- “Would you rather have twins or one kid at a time?”
(Because two at once is a whole different game.)
- “How do you feel about kids’ birthday parties—fun or just an excuse for parents to suffer?”
(Do they see cake and chaos or a nightmare filled with sugar-high children?)
Kids can be the biggest joy or the greatest challenge (sometimes both in the same hour).
These questions help you figure out if you’re on the same page, or if they think parenting is just a cute Instagram aesthetic.
3. Religion: Not Just for Holidays
Religion!
It can bring people together or start a heated debate at the dinner table.
Some see it as a way of life, while others only think about it when Christmas decorations go up in October.
No matter where someone stands, it’s important to know before things get serious.
These questions keep it real without making it awkward.
- “Did you grow up religious, or was your family more of the ‘only go to church on holidays’ type?”
(Let’s see if Sunday mornings were for sermons or cartoons.)
- “Would you ever date or marry someone with completely different beliefs?”
(Love conquers all… but does it conquer that?)
- “If you could eliminate one religious rule from existence, what would it be?”
(Time to see how much of a rebel they are.)
- “How do you feel about prayer before meals? Sweet tradition or unnecessary pause before eating?”
(This determines if Thanksgiving dinner will start with “Amen” or “Pass the potatoes.”)
- “What’s the funniest or weirdest thing you were taught about religion as a kid?”
(Did they believe angels wrote their homework? That sneezing without saying ‘Bless you’ was bad luck?)
- “If you had to pick a religious holiday to celebrate extra every year, which one would it be?”
(Do they want Christmas in July or an excuse to eat more chocolate on Easter?)
- “Do you believe in karma, fate, or ‘everything happens for a reason’?”
(Or do they think life is just one big, chaotic mess?)
- “How do you feel about people debating religion at family gatherings?”
(Are they the type to argue or the type to pretend to need a refill and escape?)
- “Would you rather have a partner who’s deeply religious or one who’s totally indifferent?”
(Because indifference can be just as tricky as strong beliefs.)
- “If we had kids, would you want them raised with a religion, or would you let them choose?”
(This could be the question that shapes a family’s future.)
- “What do you think happens after we die? Eternal paradise, reincarnation, or just… nothing?”
(Deep. But necessary.)
- “What’s a religious tradition you don’t necessarily believe in but still love?”
(Midnight Mass? Breaking the fast? Easter egg hunts even as an adult?)
- “If you could ask a higher power one question and get a direct answer, what would it be?”
(Let’s see if they go deep or ask something like “Why do mosquitoes exist?”)
- “Do you think religion should influence politics, or should they be totally separate?”
(If they have a strong opinion, this might be a make-or-break moment.)
- “What’s a common religious saying or belief that you just don’t agree with?”
(A chance to see their independent thinking.)
- “If you could create a brand-new holiday, what would it be about?”
(Would they make it sacred or just an excuse to get extra days off work?)
- “What’s your opinion on religious tattoos—beautiful, rebellious, or unnecessary?”
(Let’s see if they think a cross tattoo is cool or if they cringe at the idea.)
- “Do you think religious people are happier than non-religious people, or does it make no difference?”
(A sneaky way to understand their perspective on faith and happiness.)
Religion can be a big deal or a background detail, but either way, it shapes a person’s values.
Better to ask these questions now than to find out later that they expect you to wake up for sunrise prayers when all you want is to sleep in.
4. Finances: The Unsexy But Crucial Topic
Money isn’t everything, but let’s be real, it can make or break a relationship.
Whether they’re a budget spreadsheet guru or a “treat yourself” type, knowing how they handle finances is key.
Because no one wants to find out after moving in together that their partner thinks credit card debt is just a “suggestion.”
- “What’s your biggest ‘Oops, I shouldn’t have spent money on that’ purchase?”
(A $300 air fryer? A 5-year gym membership they never used? A random Etsy purchase at 2 AM?)
- “Would you rather have a big paycheck and hate your job or a small paycheck and love it?”
(Let’s see if they prioritize happiness or financial security—or if they want both.)
- “Be honest—do you read the fine print before signing things, or do you just hope for the best?”
(Aka: Are they responsible, or do they just click accept and pray?)
- “What’s your opinion on prenups? Smart or a sign of distrust?”
(Time to see if they think love should be legally protected or if they just believe in love and vibes.)
- “Would you ever let someone else manage your money, or are you the ‘handle it myself’ type?”
(Because handing over financial control is not for everyone.)
- “If you suddenly won $10 million, what’s the first thing you’d do?”
(Pay off debt? Buy a yacht? Blow it all on an island party?)
- “Would you rather have a steady 9-5 job or take a financial risk on your own business?”
(This says a lot about how they see money and stability.)
- “How do you feel about splitting expenses in a relationship? 50/50, income-based, or ‘one person pays for everything’?”
(A must-ask before things get serious.)
- “Have you ever had to borrow money from someone? How did that go?”
(Did they pay it back, or did it turn into an awkward situation no one talks about?)
- “Would you rather save aggressively for retirement or live your best life now and hope for the best?”
(Do they plan for the future, or are they a YOLO kind of person?)
- “What’s your opinion on credit cards—use them wisely or avoid them like the plague?”
(Credit score drama is real.)
- “Do you think couples should merge their finances or keep everything separate?”
(Because nothing starts a debate faster than joint vs. individual bank accounts.)
- “What’s your worst financial habit?”
(Online shopping? Buying expensive coffee daily? Pretending budgeting apps don’t exist?)
- “If you had to live on a strict budget, what’s the one ‘unnecessary’ thing you refuse to give up?”
(Streaming subscriptions? Gym membership? Those overpriced organic snacks?)
- “How do you feel about tipping? Generous, standard, or ‘why is everyone asking for tips now?!’”
(Their answer might tell you how they treat service workers—and their general outlook on money.)
- “What’s your dream splurge purchase?”
(Luxury car? Designer shoes? A lifetime supply of sushi?)
- “Do you believe in investing, or do you think it’s just fancy gambling?”
(Are they financially savvy, or do they just stash cash under their mattress?)
- “Would you rather have a small, paid-off house or a giant mansion with a mortgage?”
(Do they value debt-free living or luxury at all costs?)
- “How would you feel if your partner made way more or way less money than you?”
(Some people care. Some don’t. Better to know now!)
- “Do you track your spending, or do you just check your bank balance and hope for the best?”
(Are they the spreadsheet type or the ‘swipe and pray’ type?)
- “What’s something most people waste money on that you’ll never understand?”
(Bottled water? Designer pets? Fancy car rims?)
Finances might not be romantic, but neither is fighting about money every month.
These questions help avoid major future headaches.
5. In-Laws: The Hidden Challenge in Every Relationship
In-laws. They can be a blessing, a challenge, or a full-blown reality TV show waiting to happen.
Whether they’re over-involved, distant, or somewhere in between, they will be part of the relationship.
Better to ask these questions now than to find out later that Sunday family dinners are mandatory.
- “Do you think in-laws should have a key to your house, or is that a horror movie waiting to happen?”
(Surprise visits at 7 AM? No, thank you.)
- “If your mom and I disagree, whose side do you take?”
(Spoiler: There is a wrong answer.)
- “How often is ‘too often’ for family visits?”
(Weekly? Monthly? Only on special occasions and in emergencies?)
- “Would you ever let an in-law move in with us?”
(Because ‘just for a little while’ can turn into forever real quick.)
- “Do you think it’s normal for parents to expect to be involved in every big decision?”
(Or should they just trust their adult child to handle life?)
- “If we had kids, how much influence should our parents have in raising them?”
(Are we talking occasional advice or full-blown co-parenting attempts?)
- “Have your parents ever done something that completely embarrassed you in front of a partner?”
(And is it likely to happen again?)
- “What’s a family tradition your parents do that you love?”
(Because not everything about in-laws is scary.)
- “What’s a family tradition your parents do that you hate?”
(And do they expect you to keep doing it?)
- “How do you feel about celebrating holidays with both families? Rotate, combine, or run away to a beach instead?”
(Because holiday negotiations can turn into full-blown warfare.)
- “What’s the most awkward thing your parents have ever said to someone you were dating?”
(Prepare for some secondhand embarrassment.)
- “If your mom/dad criticized me, would you defend me or just awkwardly change the subject?”
(Because no one wants to be left hanging in a battle of passive-aggressiveness.)
- “How do your parents handle conflict—talk it out, ignore it, or make everyone suffer silently?”
(Because they might expect us to do the same.)
- “Do you think parents should have a say in wedding plans, or is that our decision?”
(Aka: Do they get an opinion on everything, or just the guest list?)
- “How would you handle an in-law who gives unsolicited advice about our relationship?”
(Smile and nod, or set firm boundaries?)
- “If we lived in a different country, how often would you realistically want to visit family?”
(Because some people mean ‘once a year,’ while others mean ‘every long weekend.’)
- “Would you ever cancel our plans to do something for your parents last minute?”
(Priorities, priorities.)
- “How would you react if an in-law tried to control how we raise our future kids?”
(Would they stand up for us or just hope it blows over?)
- “Do you think in-laws should have a say in what we name our kids?”
(Because some grandmas will fight over baby names.)
- “Have you ever had a fight with your parents about something major? How did it go?”
(If they never fight, they might also never set boundaries.)
- “If we had a major disagreement with one of your parents, would you mediate or stay out of it?”
(Better to know now if you’re on your own.)
- “What’s your opinion on family members dropping by unannounced?”
(If they say ‘I love it,’ we have a problem.)
- “Do you think it’s weird when parents are overly involved in their kids’ marriages?”
(Because some parents think their opinion should matter as much as yours.)
- “If I ever needed to set a boundary with your parents, would you back me up?”
(A relationship is way easier when both partners are on the same team.)
In-laws can be the sweetest people ever, or a whole new level of challenge.
These questions make sure you know what you’re walking into before it’s too late.
6. Rapid-Fire ‘This or That’ Questions to Get to Know Someone
Sometimes, you don’t need a deep conversation, just quick, instinctive answers that reveal a lot about someone.
These rapid-fire questions help you see their personality, priorities, and potential red flags (looking at you, people who prefer pineapple on pizza).
- “Joint bank account or separate?”
(A finance test in one question.)
- “Morning person or night owl?”
(Because no one wants to date a grumpy zombie at 7 AM.)
- “Big wedding or courthouse elopement?”
(Let’s see if they dream of a grand event or a simple ‘I do.’)
- “City life or countryside retreat?”
(Skyscrapers or open fields? Traffic or fresh air?)
- “Road trip or staycation?”
(Are they adventure-seeking or couch-loving?)
- “Splurge on vacations or save every penny?”
(Because some people live for travel, and others live for financial security.)
- “Live near family or move far away?”
(How attached are they to home?)
- “Kids or no kids?”
(No pressure… but this is a big one!)
- “Spicy food or sweet?”
(Can they handle heat, or do they need a gallon of milk after one bite?)
- “Dogs or cats?”
(Because ‘both’ is cheating.)
- “Messy but creative or tidy but boring?”
(A glimpse into their personality.)
- “Debt-free life or dream house with a mortgage?”
(Do they value freedom or luxury?)
- “Holiday with family or romantic getaway?”
(Would they rather sip wine with you or listen to Aunt Linda’s same old stories?)
- “Netflix binge or hiking adventure?”
(Are they a couch potato or an outdoor explorer?)
- “Work to live or live to work?”
(This says a lot about their priorities.)
- “Save for retirement or spend money now?”
(Do they think ahead or live in the moment?)
- “Marry young or wait until you’re older?”
(Is love a sprint or a marathon?)
- “Love language: gifts or quality time?”
(Let’s see how they show love.)
- “Would you rather have in-laws who visit too much or never visit?”
(Both answers come with risks.)
- “House full of kids or house full of pets?”
(Either way, expect chaos.)
- “Traditional or modern relationship roles?”
(Old school or new wave?)
- “Candlelit dinner or fast food in the car?”
(Fancy or low-key?)
- “Would you rather your partner be a social butterfly or a homebody?”
(Are they out partying, or are they happy in pajamas at home?)
- “Unlimited money but no free time or tons of free time but just enough money?”
(Luxury life or stress-free life?)
- “Talk about problems immediately or need space to process?”
(Conflict style matters.)
- “Do the dishes or take out the trash?”
(The true test of teamwork.)
- “Would you rather have a partner who spends too much or a partner who saves too much?”
(Both can drive you crazy.)
- “Be the funny one or the smart one in a relationship?”
(No wrong answer… unless they think they’re both.)
- “Would you rather have a partner who is always late or always early?”
(One of these leads to a lot of waiting.)
- “Live without TV or live without music?”
(What’s their true entertainment priority?)
- “Would you rather date someone with no social media or someone who posts everything?”
(Privacy or oversharing?)
- “Would you rather have a partner who loves surprises or hates them?”
(Some people need to know what’s coming.)
- “Early riser or sleep until noon?”
(Are they up at sunrise or refusing to function before 10 AM?)
- “Would you rather your partner be obsessed with sports or totally indifferent to them?”
(Are you in for endless game nights or blissful ignorance?)
- “Minimalist lifestyle or love collecting things?”
(Is their home clean and empty or packed with ‘treasures’ from 10 years ago?)
- “Would you rather have your partner be too affectionate or not affectionate enough?”
(Hugs all day or a love drought?)
Rapid-fire questions might seem simple, but they reveal a lot about a person’s habits, preferences, and potential deal-breakers.
If you’re laughing (or panicking) at their answers, that’s a great sign.
Conclusion:
Asking the right questions to get to know someone isn’t just about avoiding awkward silence, it’s about building real connection, understanding, and maybe even discovering some hilarious quirks along the way.
Whether you’re discussing kids, finances, in-laws, or just debating the true purpose of pineapple on pizza, great conversations can bring you closer together.
But why stop here?
If you want to take your relationship communication to the next level while keeping things fun and engaging, the Better Topics Card Game for Couples is the perfect tool.
Designed to spark meaningful discussions, deepen your bond, and keep the playful energy alive, this game helps couples connect in a way that never gets boring.
Plus, with repeatable questions, you can replay it endlessly and always discover something new about each other.
So grab your partner, shuffle the deck, and get ready to laugh, learn, and love even more.
Because great relationships don’t just happen, they’re built one conversation at a time.
