I love my husband!
There, I said it.
Loud and proud.
He’s my favorite human, my partner-in-crime, and the only person I trust to order for me at a restaurant.
But love isn’t just a feeling, it’s something you do.
And if I don’t show it, he might start thinking I only keep him around to reach the high kitchen shelves.
So, here’s how I make sure my husband knows he’s appreciated.
No clichés, no generic advice.
Just real ways to love your husband loud and clear.
Speak His Love Language (Even If It’s a Weird One)
Some men love sweet words.
Others love grand gestures.
Mine?
He just wants uninterrupted time in the morning.
Love languages aren’t just cute relationship quizzes, they actually work.
If your husband values quality time, put your phone down when he’s talking.
If he loves acts of service, surprise him by folding his laundry… without stuffing it in the drawer like a raccoon.
Pay attention to what makes him feel loved.
It’s not always what you expect.
Here’s the catch: Most of us show love the way we like to receive it.
If you love words of affirmation, you might text him sweet messages all day.
But if his love language is physical touch, he’d probably trade all those texts for a spontaneous hug and a hand on his shoulder while he’s driving.
It took me way too long to figure this out.
I thought telling my husband he was amazing was enough.
Turns out, he’d rather I just bring him a snack while he’s deep into his work.
So now?
I do both.
A simple “I love you” and a plate of nachos?
That man glows.
Also, love languages aren’t always obvious.
Some guys claim they don’t care about gifts, but watch their face when you randomly pick up their favorite candy at the store.
Others swear words don’t mean much to them, but if you brag about them in front of their friends?
Instant ego boost.
And here’s a pro tip: Their love language can change depending on their stress levels.
When my husband is relaxed, he loves quality time.
When he’s overwhelmed?
Acts of service.
That’s when I swoop in with a surprise cup of tea or take something off his plate before he even asks.
If you’re not sure what his love language is, experiment.
Try different things.
Pay attention to what makes his eyes light up.
Love is about making the other person feel seen, not just doing what you think is romantic.
Give Him Credit for the Things He Does Right
Men love to feel needed.
They also love knowing you notice their effort.
So, I thank my husband for the little things.
“Thanks for fixing the sink!” (Even though it took five YouTube tutorials and a minor flood.)
“I love that you always check if the doors are locked.”
“Wow, you really folded that blanket like a pro.”
It’s easy to nag when they mess up.
But showing appreciation when they get it right?
That makes them want to do more.
Here’s the thing: men don’t always say it, but they crave validation just as much as we do.
They want to feel useful, respected, and like what they do actually matters.
And let’s be real, no one enjoys feeling like their efforts go unnoticed.
Imagine spending an hour cooking dinner, and the only feedback you get is, “Did you add too much salt?”
Ouch.
The same applies to men.
Sure, maybe he didn’t load the dishwasher the way you would, but hey, he did it.
A simple “Thanks for doing the dishes!” can go a long way.
It reinforces that what he does is valuable instead of making him feel like no effort is ever good enough.
And guess what?
If he feels appreciated, he’s more likely to keep doing it.
Men also love recognition for the things they do behind the scenes.
My husband is always the one who checks the car before long trips.
He makes sure the tires are good, the gas tank is full, and we’re stocked with snacks.
I used to think: ‘Well, of course he does that, it’s normal’.
But then I realized, Wait.
He does this because he cares about us.
So now?
I tell him, “I love how you always make sure the car is ready. It makes me feel safe.”
And you know what?
He beams!
Even if he does something that should be common sense, acknowledge it.
“Thanks for putting the seat down” might sound silly, but if it encourages him to keep doing it, is it really that bad?
And here’s a fun secret: Compliment him in front of others.
If you tell your mom, “He always makes sure my car is running smoothly,” he’ll pretend not to care.
But later?
He’ll totally remember it.
Public praise sticks.
At the end of the day, giving credit doesn’t cost anything.
It doesn’t mean we have to worship the ground they walk on.
It just means acknowledging the things they do right, because when people feel valued, they show up even better.
Brag About Him in Public
Men pretend they don’t care, but trust me, they do.
If I tell my friends my husband is amazing, he hears it.
And he likes it.
I casually drop compliments when he’s in earshot.
“Yeah, my husband made the best breakfast this morning.”
Watch him act cool while secretly puffing up with pride.
Bonus tip: If you post about him online, keep it real.
“Best husband ever” is sweet.
“My king, my soul, my everything” might make him hide under the couch.
Now, here’s where it gets even better, bragging about him in front of his friends or family?
That’s next-level magic.
Telling his mom, “He’s so good at fixing things around the house,” is like giving him an Olympic gold medal.
Telling his best friend, “He’s been working so hard lately, I don’t know how he does it,” makes him feel like an absolute boss.
And if you really want to make his day?
Brag about him when he’s not even there.
Someone will tell him.
It always gets back.
“Diana was saying the other day how much she appreciates you.”
Boom!
Instant confidence boost.
But here’s the trick: be specific!
Don’t just say, “He’s great.”
Say, “He’s so thoughtful. He always remembers to bring me tea when he gets one for himself.”
Or, “He’s the most patient dad, he somehow stays calm when the baby is screaming.”
These details hit different.
Also, bragging in public doesn’t just make him feel good.
It sets the tone for your relationship.
If you constantly talk about your husband’s good qualities, it reinforces to you why you love him in the first place.
You start to see more of the good instead of nitpicking the small annoyances.
And let’s be honest, people complain about their spouses a lot.
Be the person who does the opposite.
When your friends are griping about their husbands leaving socks on the floor, casually say, “Oh yeah, mine does that too. But he’s also the only one who remembers to take the bins out without being asked, so I call it even.”
The more you hype him up, the more he wants to live up to that praise.
A man who feels admired at home?
That’s a man who steps up even more.
Keep the Fun Alive (Yes, Even After Kids and Mortgage Payments)
Life gets busy. Work, kids, bills, romance gets shoved into a corner.
But I love my husband, and that means making time for fun.
We have dumb inside jokes that make no sense to anyone else.
We prank each other (nothing divorce-worthy).
We go on random late-night snack runs just because.
Married life doesn’t have to be boring.
Keep flirting, keep laughing, and don’t let routine turn your relationship into a business partnership.
Here’s the thing: fun isn’t just something for the dating phase.
It’s what keeps you from waking up one day and realizing you and your husband only talk about grocery lists and who forgot to pay the internet bill.
If you don’t intentionally bring fun into the marriage, it disappears.
So, how do I keep things fun?
Sometimes it’s the little things, like dancing in the kitchen while making breakfast.
Or sending him ridiculous memes in the middle of the day.
I once left a note in his lunchbox that just said, You’re my favorite human… and I know you’re sneaking extra snacks right now.
He called me laughing.
Mission accomplished.
Another trick?
Surprise him with nonsense.
One time, I changed the language settings on his phone to Spanish just to mess with him.
He had to figure out how to turn it back, and I laughed for a full hour.
He got me back later by putting tape over the TV remote sensor.
Fair game.
Also, couples forget to go on real dates.
Not just “let’s grab groceries together and call it a date.”
I mean actual dates, something that breaks the usual routine.
It doesn’t have to be expensive. We’ve had a blast doing:
- Late-night fast food drives with music blasting like we’re teenagers.
- Trying out a new hobby together (turns out, we’re both terrible at bowling).
- Going to a bookstore, picking out a book for each other, and actually reading them.
- Playing “Would You Rather” but making it absolutely ridiculous.
- And if you have kids? Involve them in the fun sometimes!
Have a spontaneous dance party, play silly games, or let them judge who tells the worst dad joke.
Fun shouldn’t end when you have responsibilities… it should evolve.
The bottom line?
I love my husband, and I don’t want our marriage to feel like a corporate partnership where we only discuss schedules and responsibilities.
I want to laugh with him.
I want to surprise him.
I want to be the reason he smirks randomly during the day because he’s remembering something ridiculous we did.
Because a marriage without fun is just two people paying bills together.
And where’s the joy in that?
Flirt Like You Just Started Dating
People stop flirting after marriage.
Big mistake.
I love my husband, so I flirt with him all the time.
I send him texts that would make him blush at work.
I give him “the look” across the room.
I kiss him like I mean it, not just a rushed peck before grocery shopping.
Flirting keeps the spark alive.
Don’t let your only physical contact be handing him the baby or passing him the remote.
Here’s the thing—: flirting doesn’t have to be dramatic or straight out of a rom-com.
It’s the little things.
The playful touches, the teasing, the way you randomly lean in and whisper, You look really good today, just to watch him pretend like he’s not affected.
And let’s be honest, flirting with your husband is way more fun now than when you were dating.
Back then, it was all about making a good impression.
Now?
Now you can mess with him just for fun.
Ways I Flirt with My Husband Just to Keep Him on His Toes
Winking at him across the dinner table while the baby smears mashed carrots on the wall.
Walking past him and “accidentally” brushing against him in a way that’s definitely not accidental.
Sending him ridiculous, over-the-top pickup lines when he’s in the middle of something serious. (“Are you French? Because Eiffel for you.”)
Randomly whispering something scandalous when we’re in a totally unromantic setting, like the grocery store. (Try it in the frozen food aisle. Watch him struggle.)
Stealing his hoodies, just to see him come chase me for them.
Flirting isn’t just about words.
It’s about creating those little moments of connection that say, Hey, I still see you.
I still like you.
And I’m still attracted to you.
Bring Back the Playfulness
Remember how, when you first started dating, everything felt exciting?
You’d steal bites of each other’s food.
You’d have inside jokes that made no sense to anyone else.
You’d touch just because you could.
That doesn’t have to stop.
Ever.
I still tease my husband like I did when we were first together.
I still challenge him to dumb competitions (who can throw a sock into the laundry basket from across the room).
I still pretend I’m too short to reach things just so he’ll come over and help.
Flirt in His Love Language
If he loves words, whisper something sweet or send a flirty text.
If he loves touch, surprise him with a kiss when he least expects it.
If he’s into acts of service, casually bring him his favorite snack and say, Only because you’re cute.
And don’t forget the power of eye contact.
Holding eye contact just a little longer than usual?
That’s a game-changer.
Try it when he’s talking about something random.
Watch how he suddenly forgets what he was saying.
The bottom line?
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean the chase is over.
Keep flirting.
Keep teasing.
Keep making him wonder what you’ll do next.
Because when the fun and attraction stay alive, so does the relationship.
Conclusion
I love my husband, and I don’t just say it.
I show it!
Whether it’s flirting like we just met, letting him win (sometimes), or appreciating the small things he does, love is about the little moments that keep a marriage strong.
Relationships thrive on effort, and when both partners feel valued, the connection deepens.
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Playing the Better Topics Card Game for Couples.
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